The Persian Wedding Ceremony (Aghd) Demystified

The traditions and symbolism in a Persian wedding is explained. From the aghd and the aroosi, to the sofreh and the sweets and everything else in between!
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A wedding is always a beautiful occasion full of love, happiness and the merging of two families. It can be amazing, fun and totally stressful for the parties involved. But, one of my favorite wedding experiences is attending a Persian wedding. There is tremendous history, symbolism and beauty found in a Persian wedding ceremony. These are traditions that are honored regardless of religion, too, which is key during these turbulent times in the middle-east. Why all this wedding talk? I’m certainly already married. But, my husband’s niece just got married, which is why (among other reasons) I have been neglecting my blog bit. While I’ve been editing pictures and home videos taken during this niece’s wedding, I thought, “Why not write about it and share this gorgeous ceremony with you?”

A traditional persian wedding is broken into parts: the aghd (the actual ceremony) and the aroosi (the reception). This is similar to western culture, except that both the aghd and the aroosi can be held months apart. But typically in modern times, they are held the same day. The aghd is usually a smaller ceremony, held for only family members and close friends to attend, while the aroosi is a larger party and celebration and more formal affair. It is very common even today for the women who attend both ceremonies to wear two different outfits, one colorful and happy for the aghd and one more formal for the aroosi. Me? I’m Ms. Practical. I wore just one dress.The Persian Wedding Ceremony (Aghd) Demystified by

The aghd is performed in front of a sofreh, a symbolic wedding spread placed on a beautifully arranged wedding cloth. The sofreh-e aghd is placed low to the ground or on the ground and the bride and groom sit on a bench facing the sofreh. The sofreh has many symbolic items placed upon it. Most of the items listed below are required on the sofreh, but each region of Iran has certain items that are significant to them.

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Mirror and candlesticks: A mirror reflects what is before it, so symbolically it brings the couple abundance and brightness in their future. The candles bring passion and energy. As the story goes, the first thing the groom should see is the face of his beautiful bride reflected in the mirror, lit by the light of the candlesticks. Both the mirror and the candlesticks were traditional gifts given from the groom to his bride, but today everything is coordinated in the colors and taste of both the bride and groom. The wedding mirror and candlesticks are also the first items to be brought to the newlyweds’ new home, bringing them the same love and good luck they received during their wedding.

Wedding bench: During the ceremony, the bride and groom are sitting on the bench and facing the mirror and sofreh. Vows are exchanged here as they are surrounded by loved ones.

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Sugar cones (khaleh ghand): While the ceremony is conducted, single women or female relatives of the couple hold a fine cloth, over the couple’s head. They alternate grinding the sugar cones over the bride and groom’s head, adding more sweetness to their life together. When the bride is asked by the officiant conducting the ceremony if she will marry the groom, she is not supposed to answer the first time.  family member close to the bride answers, “She’s out picking flowers.” The bride is asked a second time, and she still is not supposed to answer. “She is putting her flowers in a vase.” When the bride is asked a third time if she will marry the groom, then she answers,”Yes, with the permission of my parents and elders.” Everyone cheers and the sugar cones and cloth are placed back on the sofreh.

Honey: Once the bride and groom are pronounced man and wife, they exchange rings. A bowl of honey is presented to the couple, and the groom dips his finger into the honey and gives it to his bride. The bride reciprocates and offers her husband honey, as well. Again, the sweet of the honey symbolizes a sweet life together.The Persian Wedding Ceremony (Aghd) Demystified by

Other items that are also included on the sofreh-e aghd include:

Sweets and candies: for sweetness in life, and offered to guests after the ceremony.

Decorated eggs and nuts in their shells: for fertility

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Gold and silver: for prosperity

Fresh flowers: to bring beauty in the couple’s life together

Fresh Fruit: for a joyous future

Rosewater: to perfume the air and bring beauty

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Holy book: from whichever religion the couple follows

After the ceremony is done, family members walk up to congratulate the bride and groom. Wedding gifts are usually given at this time, which is traditionally money and jewelry. Yes, my American friends enjoyed watching my family and in-laws adorn me with necklaces and bracelets!

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Just like its western counterparts, Persian weddings and the sofreh-e aghd can vary among style, ornateness and taste of the bride and groom. Some have a traditional feel, others more modern. For my wedding (pictured above), my then fiancé made two stainless water sculptures for our sofreh. We also worked together, designed and made the mosaic mirror that took center stage. The mirror hangs in our family room still today, 15 years later.

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Wow. Has it really been 13 years? Sorry, babe to embarrass you with these pictures…. I think my mom would point out that I’m slouching and not sitting up straight!

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A current trend in Persian weddings, especially in Los Angeles, is to have a woman dressed in traditional village attire under a great canopy to serve tea in a samovar for the wedding guests to enjoy. An assortment of Persian sweets and treats and also available for the guests to sample. It’s a fun novelty, especially when you have foreigners attending the wedding.

I will talk about the traditional foods served at the reception, the aroosi, in another post. Until then, I hope you enjoyed this little journey down memory lane for me. And if you ever get invited to a Persian wedding, I hope you go and enjoy the adventure ahead!

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22 Responses to The Persian Wedding Ceremony (Aghd) Demystified

  1. Fascinating post – I love reading about your culture! Keep it up –

  2. Beautiful pictures of your wedding!

  3. Oh, so beautiful and I love learning about your culture!

  4. It’s lovely to read about all the symbolism in a Persian wedding. It must be such a special day for all concerned, one to never forget.

  5. Great pictures, wonderful info. I really learned a lot – thanks so much for sharing.

  6. Now I want to be invited to a Persian wedding to see a real ceremony! This was such a fun post – I love wedding!! And thanks for sharing your wedding picture too. You are in white gown!!! Awww you two look so beautiful together. Everything is very gorgeous and I’m glad you explained about the mirror, which was the first thing I wondered why it’s there. 🙂

  7. So interesting and beautiful! More, please.

  8. Eha at #

    How lovely! Thank you for sharing and teaching! At a time peace is not always present in the Middle East, it is heartwarming to be where love is 🙂 !

  9. Laura, what a great post! I love learning about different cultures and customs. You look beautiful-thanks for sharing that photo too. Now I just need to find a Persian wedding to crash, because of the food. I might be serious about crashing one. Lol:)

  10. This is a really fascinating post. I loved your pictures, too. Can’t wait to hear about the reception!

  11. Asmita at #

    Beautiful photographs and loved reading this post!

  12. This is amazing – I love seeing these pictures and learning more about the traditions behind each part of the ceremony. Now bring on the food!

    • Natasha at #

      I can’t find the promised food post. Can you point me in the right direction?

      • I have not been able to write it yet. One of the dishes that is a must for a Persian wedding is Shirin Polo (sweet rice). And I will have this recipe up December 9th. I will email you the link when it is ready.

  13. Very nice article. For those interested in seeing a variety of Real Weddings, Persian Style, check this website:

    Click on any of the weddings for a full report on that Persian wedding with photos, etc.

  14. Very nice article and beautiful pictures. Thanks for providing such great insight into Persian wedding ceremonies.

    You may also want to check out the photo gallery of my new website at where I have gathered some of the pictures of the Persian wedding ceremonies that I have had the privilege of being the wedding officiant.

  15. Mary at #

    we are going to use some of the material you posted here on our site, if it is OK:

    we will of course give you the credit.

    • Please do not repost everything on your site, as this infringes on my copyright. But you can quote me and link back to this page. Thank you!

  16. Ron at #

    I love filming Persian weddings – so many beautiful symbols, colors and smiles. Lovely people too!

  17. Fahimeh at #

    I’m Iranian. You could even impress me!!! You are definitely a talented writer and Iranian weddings are absolutely beautiful!
    You described everything in detail. Bravo!

    • Thank you, Fahimeh! Persian weddings are truly a magical experience that I hope non-Iranins get an opportunity witness.


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